Most people have something to talk about. You may not think you do, but just wait until someone asks you a question. Then you have something to talk about. You don’t even have to respond to have something to talk about. Just having something to talk about doesn’t mean you’ll talk about it. But you can still say you have something to talk about. It’s up to you to decide if you’ll talk about it.
Some people are driven to talk, even if, in the judgment of others, they don’t really have anything to talk about. There is often a difference of opinion along these lines. Those people who are driven to talk don’t need anything to talk about (in the judgment of others). All they need is to talk. Subject matter is secondary; often, a very distant secondary. The talkers with (in the opinion of others) nothing really to talk about have no compunction not to talk. Talking is the way they make their ways through life. They just need to find the listeners, or at least those who can feign interest well enough to lull the talker into thinking they’re being heard.
Then there are those people who have a lot to talk about but would rather not. Some are wise, some are smart, some have answers to thorny questions. But getting them to talk is not easy. There are different reasons for this, depending upon the individual. Some of them are self absorbed. Some are egotistical. Some are bashful. Some just think that talking is not worth the energy expenditure. Some of them just need to be caught in the right mood, or at the right tavern.
Some people talk only when they’re spoken to. They may never initiate a conversation. These folks, bless them, take up space in the world of humanity but rarely participate in it. Conversations, to them, are things to be avoided. And, avoiding them, they isolate themselves. I take pity on them, but perhaps they prefer life that way. Speaking of conversations, we should differentiate between talking and having a conversation.
Talking can take place with only one person present. In fact, quite a bit of talking goes on in situations where there might as well only be one person present because no one besides the talker is listening to what’s being said. Conversations take place when several people reciprocate during the talking process. One talks and the others listen, then another responds and the rest listen, and so on. Participating in a conversation requires some listening and some talking, balanced in such a way that a worthwhile interchange is underway. There again, “worthwhile” is a debatable term, based on the likes and dislikes of individuals with wide-ranging standards.
If you really want to know how worthwhile others deem your talking, ask them. “What did I just say?” is a good way to find out if your interlocutors have been listening. Spring this on them every now and then. You don’t have to wait till you’ve finished. Think of it as a sort of ongoing quiz, and something that’s beneficial for the listeners as well as yourself, the talker. When your friends and acquaintances catch on to what your new policy is, they will definitely spend more time listening and less time daydreaming while you ramble on.
It takes a little practice to develop a good talking strategy, and you might need several strategies that are tailored to different situations. If you really thrive on the craft of talk and need to express yourself no matter what, strategic advantage should be foremost in your mind. You can really excel at power talking only if your voice can rise above that of others, and if you can control the subject matter of most any conversation. If you have a naturally loud voice, so much the better. If you have a knack for twisting conversations around to suit your own interests, you are on your way. Whatever you do, do not grow weak in an interchange. Just because someone has a “good” idea, do not hesitate to question and cast doubt on their motives. Take the lead at all times. Show no mercy. Talking, for you, is the essence of life and you must be the mechanism by which any conversation continues.
Most people have something to talk about. Some people can talk. Some people must talk.